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Hearing the words ‘chi-chi man’ or ‘batty man’ in Jamaican reggae or hip hop songs, or hearing people use the word ‘gay’ as an insult or put-down, made me shy away from my sexuality even further.

I had nothing in common with the gay men represented in mainstream media.Not only was I not white, I also didn’t possess the effeminate and ‘camp’ mannerisms that the men on these shows displayed, and were so loved for.Any feminine qualities I once possessed, I had been taught to hide.What I knew of gay culture, growing up, came from homosexual characters featured in British television sitcoms.Most were depicted as overtly feminine, white males and I just couldn’t relate to these personas.

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